Kristin’s mother called me one morning. “We have to change the wedding date.” My brain began to run on overdrive. Uhoh. What was wrong? “Kristin’s pregnant and that’s her due date!”
With a new wedding date and having just given birth to Isa 7 weeks prior, Steven and Kristin got married in Kristin’s childhood backyard. Baby Isa watched as her mom sat to get her hair quickly braided up. Her tiny little white dress hung just below her mom’s wedding dress. Isa was passed from bridesmaid to grandmother to aunt, everyone taking turns getting ready themselves and giving kisses to the baby. Steven lit up when he saw both of them, already asking if Kristin needed anything. Nope. They just needed to sit down and relax together. In all honesty, I had never shot a pregnant bride or a bride who had literally just given birth. Isa was a newborn and I wanted her to feel just as loved and calm as any other day. So I just let the new family cuddle and enjoy themselves. No need to run all over the property. These two still had that “This is OUR baby!” wonderment on their faces. Photographing a wedding with a newborn might seem like it should be high stress, but it was nothing of the sort. Everyone had wedding excitement and happiness of new life all packed into one day.
A Cape Cod backyard wedding was an accidental blessing. Having a wedding at home can be a big stressor but in this case, it made everything so much easier. Kristin had a nice, quiet room to nurse in. The baby, once put to sleep, had a monitor on and was kept tabs on by some family. Steven could walk just a few steps to check on the baby. There were plenty of comfy couches to sit down, relax, and hold the baby for pictures. It was the ultimate convenience. Need a baby toy? You got em all.
Some small tips to getting married with a baby:
- As Kristin said when we discussed timeline- “The timeline is up to Isa.” You have to make sure to add in lots of extra time and prepare to switch things up
- Let other people know things can and will change at the last minute. They need to step up and be prepared to make things happen for you so that you can attend to the baby. I would recommend a planner or day of coordinator to make things go smoothly.
- You’re wearing white. With a baby. It won’t stay white and that’s ok (let’s be real, a wedding dress is only ever pristine white in the bag and everyone’s dress will (not maybe) get a bit dirty). That’s why there are tide pens and oxiclean. Make a dress selection with cleaning ability in mind. So no silks.
- Have a relaxed plan for pictures. A comfy place to sit. Somewhere with a good temperature and near natural light. Preferably, somewhere quiet.